Silhouette

Model: Daria Lamanova
Photos, makeup, hairstyle: Gleamnight
Clothing, accessories: Gleamnight fashion-studio
Corset here. By the corset was sewn kimono robe and shorts with lace inserts.



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Sometimes even the third or fourth.

I have an absolute shit memory, doubly so when trying to remember faces or names. Sometimes it even takes a bit of jarring for me to remember a conversation we've had. I do my best to exercise my mind and improve my memory but it's always a struggle.

So PLEASE don't be surprised or offended if I don't remember you as well as you remember me, even if we've run into each other a couple times already. You're not the only person I've forgotten; I do it to everyone. It's terribly embarrassing for me. In fact I'm pretty sure most of my friends are people I didn't recognize the second or third time I saw them.

Does it mean I don't like you, or you're not worth remembering, if I forgot you? Of course not. Hell, even renowned actors (including Bill Fucking Murray!) take me a while to remember, after repeated viewings of their movies. And I can think of some well known furries who I could never remember the first few times I saw them.

I know it can be frustrating or offensive to you if I forget you. It's pretty awkward for both of us. But showing me I've upset you (even passively) is NOT going to jog my memory nor is it going to do anything more than make me feel guilty about it. And then THAT's what I'll start remembering about you - that I easily frustrate you. And then I'll just leave you alone, which is probably not what you want.

To put it simply:
GOOD: *shakes your hand* "Actually, we met here last month. No worries, it's good seeing you."
BAD: *glares at you* "SERIOUSLY? I -hope- you're joking."

I know this doesn't just go for me either. Lots of people - perhaps most - need to see and fully acknowledge you a couple times before they can easily recognize you.

Whenever you run into someone who doesn't remember you, no matter how many times they do it, I beg you to take the following advice. I always aim to do this myself, and I promise it'll save you both a lot of humiliation:

DO:

* Remain patient.
* Shake hands and reintroduce yourself even if you've already done so. Do this if they offer their hand first, or if you simply suspect that they don't remember you and might be too shy to say so.
* Politely remind them how you know each other, i.e. "Actually, we met a couple times at [furmeet] over the last few months."
* Forgive them
* Be sympathetic if they are embarrassed or shy - certainly you forgot someone's name or face before?
* Remind yourself that they'll eventually remember you the more you hang out with them
* Try to make a POSITIVE impression for them to remember you by. (Smile a little!)
* Keep trying!

DON'T:

* DON'T be surprised or upset. (Some people just don't have good memories.)
* DON'T be insulted by their forgetfulness.
* DON'T display any frustration or anger that someone forgot who you are.
* DON'T give them "that look."
* DON'T make passive aggressive hints (such as "jokingly" bringing up how they keep forgetting you)
* DON'T think anything of it

Again, I'm constantly finding myself on both ends of this situation. I constantly forget people and people constantly forget me. It's embarrassing but I do my best to remember people and forget these little incidents. Trust me, I'd rather have you as a friend, even if it takes a lot of patient reminders.

There are also some important things you can do to HELP me (and others) remember you!:

* Stay in touch with me online! My AIM/Y!M info are all here on LJ. Say hi after meeting me in person, so I don't forget the conversations we've had. (When we meet in person, ask me for a card! I keep them on me at cons and furmeets and they have all my contact info on them so we can stay in touch.)

* Keep a picture of your human face available somewhere online. A profile picture on FA, for example. This is especially important if you're a fursuiter - I may never have seen your face in the first place! It doesn't have to be an icon/avatar (mine's just my fursona, admittedly) but that works best in getting others to remember your face when they see you.

* At meets and events, keep your badge close to your face if you can. This is easy if you are wearing a shirt with a collar; a lanyard works OK too. This allows people to see your name and associate it with your face better. (Your badge is meant to be seen. If you keep your badge near your waist or somewhere where my eyes don't normally follow, nobody will see it.)

* Actually chat and have a conversation with me in person once in a while. (I don't understand why, but I do keep getting people with whom I've never actually chatted more than a couple minutes, and then they are surprised that I don't remember them.)

If you agree with any bit of this entry please feel free to link to it or copy it. I'd be thrilled if this advice was heeded. Anthrocon is coming up very soon, and I'm preparing for a lot of "I'm sorry, what's your name again?" and the ensuing awkwardness, which can all be avoided simply by clipping your badge to your collar and being patient with your peers. :3

I am doing a massive cleaning out of things I no longer wear/barely wear/never wear. Listed behind the cut are a Sweet Carousel 32" standard size overbust longline corset in pink brocade, a Sweet Carousel 30" standard size underbust ribbon longline, a Sugarkitty 34" underbust longline in black and Virgen de Guadalupe print (sad to have to sell!), and a Burleska medium sized corset that I purchased for someone else and never gave them due to change in style. :D

Please contact me at jmgriggs [DOT] rpsgt [AT] gmail [DOT] com if interested in anything. :D

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Now on its way to its new owner. Take care my loyal friend...



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Attention photographers and fursuiters...this is relevant to your interests! You can help contribute your content to a very cool book-to-be:

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Lake Vostok, the largest of Antarctica's buried lakes, was reached, after 22 years of drilling, at 3,769.3 meters down, narrowly (in terms of years) beating UK and US, each drilling to their own 15-million year old lake.

Speaking of ice, Tyrolean Iceman's genome was sequenced. He had severe arteriosclerosis despite leading the healthy hunter-gatherer lifestyle. He also had Lyme.

Speaking of arteries, Alex, the world's smartest parrot, died of hardened arteries halfway through the experiment where he had shown that he can recognize and add arabic numerals to the sum of 8.

The US government decided to return to allowing (and funding) new nuclear power plants, for the first time since 1978, but nobody wants to build them (except one company with two new reactors).

Majorana fermions, which are their own antiparticles, may have been detected.

Semptember's faster-then-light neutrinos, on the other hand, turned out to be a timing error, after all.

Venus is slowing down pretty fast: the day there in 2007 was 6.5 minutes slower than in 1991.

Iron selenide becomes superconductive at high pressure through a new kind of phase transition.

In cool biology news, functional cancer-killing nanorobots were made using DNA origami.

Also, GPCRs can be docked sideways, by lipids, from within the membrane.

30,000 year old plants from the mammoth steppe ecosystem were brought back to life from permafrost.

In 50 - 200 million years in the future, we're going to have a new supercontinent, Amasia, centered on the North Pole, following the neat pattern of orthoversion (each supercontinent forms 90 degrees from the last one)

Squids fly not just to avoid predators, it's also easier than swimming.

A hot spring archaeon in Kamchatka was caught in the act of diverging into two species.

One atom-thick sheet of silica glass was created by mistake, while working on graphene.

It appears the hobbits (Homo floresiensis) were not modern human cretins after all.

A researcher who happened to be collecting whale poop during 9/11 discovered just how much chronic stress the whales are under because of all the underwater noise from distant ships.

Little boys with big chins have small index fingers.

Men think that the women in red are interested in sex.

And finally, The Ponytail Equation was created, as part of the general theory on the distribution of human hair in a bundle.

Hello everyone,

On Blooddrop Etsy, I have marked down my ready to ship Luna corsets $100 off each. The sales will be available through the 31st. If you purchase for OVER $250 worth of goods and contact me before hand AND live in the USA, I will offer free shipping. Please contact me PRIOR to making your purchase. Thanks every one and have a wonderful, blessed weekend!

xoxo,
Astrid

http://blooddrop.etsy.com/

Saturday night I had this crazy dream - actually a series of dreams which I intended to jot down, but now I only remember the one part.

"Goddamn it, Bill fucking Murray! I had to get that out. I don't mean to gush. This is so surreal. I mean, you probably get this all the time. Maybe not lately, but I'm such a huge fan of yours. You know, I swear, I've seen every one of your movies a million times. I even loved your dramatic roles and just everything. Six people left in the world and one of them is Bill fucking Murray. I know that's not your middle name. I've been watching you since I was like... Since I could masturbate. I mean, not that they're connected." --Tallahassee, Zombieland

So anyway. Bill. Fucking. Murray.

SHOWS up at Anthrocon. (The dream takes place at Anthrocon, by the way.)

SHOWS up at Anthrocon. Along with the main cast from Ghostbusters. Dan Aykroyd, Harold Ramis, the black one. But they are completely outshined by Bill Murray. Everyone's like OH MY GOOOOD BILL MURRAY IS HERE WTFFFFF. So I'm there and he sees me and I'm starstruck and he smiles and you know what he effing says?

"Where's Vin? I wanna see him!"

So I'm all like whoa, and EVERYONE's jealous of me cause now Bill & Vin are like pals now. And he's going on stage in the ballroom soon with the other Ghostbusters for some Masqueradish performance show and he wants to interact with Vin so I dreamily wander off to get in suit, and on my way I get distracted by excited people talking about Bill Murray and I'm like "OMG I KNOW!!!!"

Then someone points out that Bill Murray's about to be on stage and I suddenly remember that I need to get in Vin and I start toward my hotel room but then I see something inexplicable: SOMEONE ELSE WEARING VIN is being carted around like royalty and he's waving around and interacting with people and IT'S NOT ME. And now I'm freaking out, who is this guy!! Why does he have my fursuit!! How did this happen!

And then the absolute worst fucking thing happens, IMPOSTER Vin starts interacting with Bill Murray INSTEAD OF ME, and he gets up on stage with the Ghostbusters and Bill Murray's loving it and everyone's laughing and having fun and I'm standing dumbfounded all the way in the back, by myself, missed my big chance, staring helplessly and going THIS ISN'T HAPPENING THIS ISN'T HAPPENING

omg...I...auindflkj;awlkr augh

Dream ended there.

I have here a steel boned, custom made corset by Versatile Corsets in the Venus underbust style up for auction. The corset features a one of a kind design mentally constructed by myself and custom printed onto sturdy muslin fabric, which is featured as the central design. Encompassing this design are a variety of different cotton fabrics printed with a queen of hearts/casino/cards theme and more. Grommets adorn each side of the central design in the front for optional lacing. In addition, there is bottom red lacing at the bottom of each side of the corset. Both the top and bottom is garnished with red fringe. Minor flaws include slight loosening of the threading near the bottom left of the corset where the red lacing begins (depicted below) and red fringe in the front that was recently cut to a shorter length. Otherwise, this corset is in excellent condition measuring at 12.5 inches in length, 11 inches in width in the front, and closed at 22 inches in circumference when laced in the back. Includes front busk closure and back panel. This is truly an original corset thought up by no other! Originally purchased for nearly $600 and being sold at nearly 1/5th the price!!!



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Link to auction (also selling boots, dresses, and a body suit with built in chaps):

http://www.ebay.com/sch/macabrecoquette/m.html?item=320912557898&sspagename=STRK%3AMESELX%3AIT&rt=nc&_trksid=p3984.m1555.l2649&_trksid=p4340.l2562

Feel free to ask any questions! :)